Songs&Sushi

It´s all about choice…

“Dump Him! He doesn´t want ya!”

Don´t ask me why (cus I seriously honestly do NOT have a specific reason for reading this book right now. I´ve been single for longer than those socks have laid in the back of my closet collecting dust.)
A friend of mine read it and gave it to me. “Every woman should read it” she said and promised me at least a few good laughs.
I read the whole book in less than 2 hours. Absolutely great. Most of all TRUE. More honest than any other relationship advice book. (OK this is the second one I´ve read through my entire life so maybe I´m not allowed to say that last thing but whatever ok?!)

I am just starting to get over this absolutely perfect man and I love the feeling of it. When you break it down it is essentially the feeling of CONTROL. Nothing else. Control over YOU, NOT being dependent on another person, not CARING about what he is doing, who he meets, what he means in his messages e.t.c….
But I would lie if I said I am 100% there yet. I still get my moments or what the book would say “my excuses”. Like, I should call him shouldn´t I? Just to say hi? Just to get a reason to see him to show him I´m over him? I should call him and say happy birthday? Invite him to the New Years party?
Fucked up ladies, truly fucked up. It´s just stupid excuses.

I sure as hell never want something I can have, why the hell would he then? Does ANYBODY want something they can have?

If this guy would be all over me I´d probably be like “So, what´s up with those shoes he wears?” or, “you know, I kind of don´t like his breath, it smells like dog-poop” or “I HAVE had better sex you know….hm….” or my 2 personal favorites “aahh…the color of his car is kinda gay don´t you think?” and “His shoes sound more than mine do, that´s just wrong”

OR, I´d just be the best girlfriend in the world. IF that balance were there… Which totally don´t fucking exist anywhere in the world so you might as well just throw yourself down on the ground, declare that you give up and scream really loud.

By the way I do love life and I do try to love like I´ve never been hurt and all those things :-)

December 26, 2007 - Posted by Jenny | Uncategorized | , , , , , , | 3 Comments

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  1. Hahaha… I couldn’t agree more! The first time you say it loud to yourself: “This guy actually doesn’t want me.” really SUCKS and makes you feel lika a pathetic stalker for a secondm, but at the same time it’s a relief not to have to waste precious time on those guys.

    If a guy wants something in this world, he makes sure he gets it one way or the other and there’s no reason at all to believe men would make an exception when it comes to women.

    Comment by unicorn81 | December 27, 2007 | Reply

  2. Haha… love it. I think its always a fine balance between getting what you want and trying to hard to get what you want and then have someone look at you like you are a deranged stalker.

    Of course the rules apply both ways but from a guy’s perspective, I love it when you say no thanks to a girl and she says “ok”.. then four days later “accidentally” walks into you on the street where you live:

    “Oh what a surprise” she says innocently “I was just taking a shortcut home”.
    “But you live like ten kilometres from here” I say scratching my head
    “Yes… umm… that’s why… shall we grab a coffee?”

    Sigh.

    Nice post. :-)

    Comment by Paul B. | December 27, 2007 | Reply

  3. Thanks P-boy :-)
    This book though, doesn´t give a s*** about the balance, It says, if he doesn´t call you like a maniac, if he doesn´t live up to all of your expectations -he doesn´t want ya. Kind of drastic point of view yes but still I absolutely love it. It really preaches that if someone wants you they walk the road to the end.

    Comment by Jenny | December 28, 2007 | Reply


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